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Sunday, December 21, 2008

healing heart

okies so long since i blog again
so much so much has happened around me!
some to keep it just to myself while i gota share this with u guys

There was one night that i dreamt of the pain and hurt
about what i have been through for the half a year.
It was a sudden break up with an invalid reason a
nd i have gave so much to make it work
i was the one who got dump and refuse to admit to the fact
that he has likings for my good friend.
It was such a dark moment that i couldnt get myself out of it.
Total depressed and lost 3 kg totally.
Couldnt sleep, couldnt eat and vommited when i ate things.
My heart just felt so pain

thinking now, i couldnt have been through and found a new guy without my dear friends support!
so this is what keeps me going and makes me such a lucky girl today, blessed with love.
It may not be applicable just to heart aches,
but i believe it works for depression in 1 kind of anyother

1) Form a circle of support,
I know that it is so strong to just hid in the house everyday on the bed not wanting to do anything or meet anyone.
But this is not the way to recover, rather it will make you sink deeper into depression,
Call up your best friend and just ratter to them about how u felt.
Tell them that you need their listening ear and company.
Trust me, no true friends are too bz to keep you company.

2) Read inspiring books
that was what i have done,
went to the library alone and borrow like 5 books of how to heal a broken heart.
Then i went on to read those inspiring books that make me seem that my problems are small
and to be a better person.

3) Pack your schedule up with losa gatherings.
Call up long lost friends,plan a small gathering with them .
For me, i did not make it too big. like 2-3 people including me.
Go for dinner(try to eat abit ok?) and just talk about things freely.
Like how jerk he is,
You will be surprised by the solutions and comfort they give.

4) write down a list of negative things about him/ or the situaltion you are in now.
and what you want for your ideal partner, or what you want in future.

i read this book called The Secret.
and i realised that i have unknowly applied the rule of attraction on it.
The rule of attraction states that one has to be focus on what he/she wants, not what he or she does not what in life to succeed.

eg 1: i wrote down all my ex bf's negative qualities and paste it on my table.
Then i wrote what i want qualities am i looking for an ideal guy in future.
and god sent me such a great guy.

eg 2: i was abit depress that i couldnt find a job during my 2 mths search.
and was skeptical upon receiving my ldn shift job.
cried when i was so unhappy in the coy.
Then i focus on that i want a normal hrs job.
and an offer came shortly.

So the rules of attractions did work!

5) Get a new image.
Tell yourself that you cannot just hide from everyone.
Get a new image, start to doll up yourself.
Even if you have no money, just find cheapo stuff like exchanging clothes with your besties and all.
buy a $1.99 mask to smoothen the puffy eyes.
For me, i put cucumber that time and it works!

6) Start dating again,
Widen your social circles is the way to go.
It aids my recovery lots.
Plan outings with the guys.
Accept dates from others, eg: your friend matchmaking you, just go
Leave your choices open and enjoy dating!
this is the only chance to date and explore the qualities that you are looking out for.
For me, i commited myself to my religion class and religion lots.
then my dear ah hui's parents tried to matchmake us and there,
the rest is history.

Yups, not sure how much this will help to mend a broken heart but no matter what happens,
Stay positive, love yourself and give yoruself some time to get things over ok?

It is always that you met the wrong one then the right want will come along.
And after all these, i am sure that you will be a stronger girl.

XOXO,

Labels: love bites


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It was a sudden break up with an invalid reason a nd i have gave so much to make it work i was the one who got dump and refuse to admit to the fact that he has likings for my good friend. It was such a dark moment that i couldnt get myself out of it. Total depressed and lost 3 kg totally. Couldnt sleep, couldnt eat and vommited when i ate things. My heart just felt so pain thinking now, i couldnt have been through and found a new guy without my dear friends support! so this is what keeps me going and makes me such a lucky girl today, blessed with love. It may not be applicable just to heart aches, but i believe it works for depression in 1 kind of anyother 1) Form a circle of support, I know that it is so strong to just hid in the house everyday on the bed not wanting to do anything or meet anyone. But this is not the way to recover, rather it will make you sink deeper into depression, Call up your best friend and just ratter to them about how u felt. Tell them that you need their listening ear and company. Trust me, no true friends are too bz to keep you company. 2) Read inspiring books that was what i have done, went to the library alone and borrow like 5 books of how to heal a broken heart. Then i went on to read those inspiring books that make me seem that my problems are small and to be a better person. 3) Pack your schedule up with losa gatherings. Call up long lost friends,plan a small gathering with them . For me, i did not make it too big. like 2-3 people including me. Go for dinner(try to eat abit ok?) and just talk about things freely. Like how jerk he is, You will be surprised by the solutions and comfort they give. 4) write down a list of negative things about him/ or the situaltion you are in now. and what you want for your ideal partner, or what you want in future. i read this book called The Secret. and i realised that i have unknowly applied the rule of attraction on it. The rule of attraction states that one has to be focus on what he/she wants, not what he or she does not what in life to succeed. eg 1: i wrote down all my ex bf's negative qualities and paste it on my table. Then i wrote what i want qualities am i looking for an ideal guy in future. and god sent me such a great guy. eg 2: i was abit depress that i couldnt find a job during my 2 mths search. and was skeptical upon receiving my ldn shift job. cried when i was so unhappy in the coy. Then i focus on that i want a normal hrs job. and an offer came shortly. So the rules of attractions did work! 5) Get a new image. Tell yourself that you cannot just hide from everyone. Get a new image, start to doll up yourself. Even if you have no money, just find cheapo stuff like exchanging clothes with your besties and all. buy a $1.99 mask to smoothen the puffy eyes. For me, i put cucumber that time and it works! 6) Start dating again, Widen your social circles is the way to go. It aids my recovery lots. Plan outings with the guys. Accept dates from others, eg: your friend matchmaking you, just go Leave your choices open and enjoy dating! this is the only chance to date and explore the qualities that you are looking out for. For me, i commited myself to my religion class and religion lots. then my dear ah hui's parents tried to matchmake us and there, the rest is history. Yups, not sure how much this will help to mend a broken heart but no matter what happens, Stay positive, love yourself and give yoruself some time to get things over ok? It is always that you met the wrong one then the right want will come along. And after all these, i am sure that you will be a stronger girl. XOXO, Labels: love bites 10:30 AM ·

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